Answer of 5 common sex questions

 

Why is sex painful: 

Sex can be painful for some, especially the first time you do it. But sex isn't a painful act on the whole. It's supposed to give you pleasure.

"Some people experience anxiety, nervousness and tension during sex. This tightens the muscles of the vagina, making penetration difficult. This is what causes pain," says gynecologist Dr Srishti Jain.

Stop worrying about sex and it will automatically be pleasurable and not cause pain.

Am I a lesbian: 

Many heterosexual women have dreams about doing it with other women. This doesn't have to mean they're gay or bisexual. You may realize your sexual preference by who you think of when you masturbate. But this isn't a sure shot method, the fact remains that many women have fantasies that involve other women.

"If you have repeated dreams and sexual feelings towards a person of the same sex, which are affecting your actual sex life, you should seriously consider the possibility of being homosexual," says Jain.

I never have an orgasm: 

"Forty-five per cent of women don't have an orgasm during intercourse," says Jain. It's got nothing to do with you. It could mean you aren't getting good action.  

Try new positions and see what you enjoy best. It's just a matter of trial and error. Simply having your clitoris stroked the right way can give you an orgasm.

First Date Sex = Slut: 

There's no hard and fast rule about which date you should have sex on. It completely depends on the two people involved and how the date went.  

If you are comfortable with the guys and don't see any reason to hold off having fun in the bedroom, go right ahead. Just be prepared for things to go either way the next morning. Make sure you're using protection so that the chances of STDs and pregnancy are ruled out.

Love or lust: 

The fact that you are asking this question means you have trouble separating sex and love. Our take is that love doesn't have to come into the picture for you to have good sex. No-strings-attached sex is just as pleasurable. 

Make sure you are honest with each other about what you are looking for. Remember to use adequate protection.

Jain says pregnancy and sexually-transmitted diseases should be the biggest worry in your head. "Make sure you learn about these consequences. It's better to be safe than sorry," she says.

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How to sex up your busy lives

If you are someone who comes home early from work only to continue working from home or takes a day off from work purely for social engagements, then this you've reached the right place.

For modern day couples, where weekends only mean socialising or wrapping up household tasks, love making tends to take a back seat in their to-do list. So, today we thought of telling you how you can sex up your busy lives. Here are our top 5 tips to master the art of lovemaking and let the sparks fly...And did we mention that it's great for your health too?

Keep some time aside

Never treat sex as a burden. The key lies not in thinking about ways to deny it to your partner, but to think of ways how you can enthusiastically boost your sex life. It should be an active de-stressor in your life. After all who would mind a good sex life? Not you for sure! Talk your partner into it if you are in the mood for it tonight. Let things like cleaning, making dinner, attending work calls all be attended well in time. Candle light dinners are a passe, we say dress down for it, take a shower together and let the passion unfold!

Have a gadget-free love making session!

Switch off all your gadgets and gizmos as they can be quite distracting. Let your bedroom be a gadget-free zone. This will help channelise your energy into the one task in your daily life that doesn't need a battery or power chord.

Don't attempt sex marathons

Harsh reality - You are a working professional, and you simply can't afford to miss your morning work meetings just because you indulged in a long sex marathon the previous night. Go for short but effective love making. Besides, these marathons are stuff of romantic movies. They aren't really possible for us mere mortals - especially not every now and then.

Let your touch speak

Do simple things at the right time to reveal to her/him that you are interested! Play with her while she is busy cooking, or send him an erotic message from your phone while he is busy finishing some last minute mails at night, snuggle with each other when you are watching television together.

Less is more!

Less is more, as far your clothes are concerned. Go for sexy night wear, rather than worn out clothes. Play the visual appeal game. And pay plenty of attention to which perfume or cologne you dab on before the action begins.

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6 Ways to get a stronger erection

Have you ever felt ashamed of not satisfying your partner because of erection problems?

As you grow older you'll find it a little difficult to get a strong erection and satisfy your partner in bed. A weak erection can strain your sexual relationship, and hurt your pride as well, to say the least. So, it is always necessary to maintain a healthy lifestyle for a fully satisfying sex life.

Remember, a strong and hard erection is something women crave most for while you gear up for some action between the sheets.

We bring you six ways to get a harder erection.

1. Eat well, keep it hard:

Simple changes in your diet can increase your libido and give you a harder erection. Foods like bananas, eggs, nuts, figs, chillies, onions, and wine can increase your sexual prowess. Word of caution: Steer clear of junk food.

2. Your penis needs exercise:

Healthy men are always sexually active. Exercise is one of the best ways to increase your sex drive and sexual potency. It reduces stress which is an erection-killer, and helps enhance testosterone production in the body. Kegel exercises are a perfect workout for the penis.

3. Avoid smoking or drinking alcohol:

You must have heard this a million times, smoking and drinking can really affect your sexual life. Smoking decreases your blood circulation, and results in less lung capacity. It can impact your ability to get and maintain an erection. And alcohol can numb the body and lead to temporary erectile dysfunction.

4. Don't masturbate too often: 

Save something for a real sex. Excessive masturbation can decrease your sexual appetite. Continual erections and ejaculations may lead to weaker erection the next day. So, control the urge!

5. Know the right sex positions: 

Always warm up with oral sex. Sexual positions like missionary and doggy style allow more blood flow, leading to a stronger and harder erection. And don't ever let her ride you first!

6. Throw away those tight undergarments: 

Avoid wearing tight, or any, undergarments, for that matter, while sleeping. It restricts blood flow to the penile tissues which in turn can affect erection strength. Always go for loose, airy underwear.

Simply stop worrying about weak erections and lead a healthy sex life.

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