A couple’s lifestyle can go a long way in shaping the future of a relationship. But being patient and putting up with a partner’s quirks is not the only way to save the relationship. We tell you how you can help him get rid of his bad habits.
State the problem and let him think of a solution. But if he doesn’t have any ideas, give an alternative that works for you. Focus on solving the problem, not condemning him for his bad habit.
Keep it to one thing at a time. This means that if you are dealing with the towel on the bed, you are only dealing with the towel on the bed. Wait another day to talk about the hair in the sink or the smelly socks on the floor. It’s best not to tackle more than one issue a day. Otherwise your spouse will begin to feel like one big incompetent failure.
You have more power than you realise. So if you think he’s only having junk food, take control and he will eat better. If he’s spending too much time watching the television, it’s because it fills a void. It helps him relax and fills his time. But if the time is filled by something else, he won’t be watching TV as much. So fill up the time.
Bring it up when you are both relaxed. Don’t comment on the habit right away--it will just turn him off. After dinner is probably a good time because it’s easier to listen when you’re not starving.
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