Tuesday, 19 November 2013

Add varieties in Relationship

 Add variety to your life

Studies have shown that dullness can lead to dissatisfaction with a relationship. Trying something new can be as simple as visiting an unfamiliar restaurant or as grand as a backpacking trip through Sri Lanka. Discoveries you make together will keep you feeling close.

Play together, stay together

Find a sport or hobby that you both love and make that a priority in your relationship. Trekking, biking, tennis... whatever it is, find something you enjoy doing together.

Talk!

In other words: communicate. Talking out the tough subjects—money, religion, fidelity, raising kids—will not be the most fun you’ve had, but it’ll be valuable.

There’s no shame in seeking therapy

Studies show that couples who seek counselling during rocky periods are more successful in resolving their issues than those who don’t. Whether it’s from a counsellor or mental health professional, getting an expert to help sort out strife is very wise.

Keep your eyes on the prize

Yes, he forgot your friend’s name for the nth time, but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you. If you keep your perspective fixed on the goal—to be in a happy, functioning partnership—you’re less likely to get tangled up in every minor annoyance. Remember, you both want the same thing—love and happiness.

Two heads are better than one

Being in a relationship means you’ve made a merger. You’ve not only joined assets but inherited the other’s problems as well. Rather than looking at his problems as merely his own, tackle them together. So if he’s gaining weight, rather than pushing him to diet on his own, enroll in a gym together.

I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine

No one likes demands, but everyone can appreciate a compromise. If you want your partner to do something and you’re not sure he’ll agree, the quickest way to avoid a confrontation is to sweeten the deal. For example: “Sure, I’ll watch the cricket match on Monday if you take me to see the next movie of my choice.”

Fight right

In order to have productive arguments, keep these rules in mind: Don’t call your spouse names. When things get really tough, take a break from the argument. Let the other person finish his/her sentences. Don’t initiate a discussion when you’re angry.

Mind your manners

“Please”, “thank you” and “you’re welcome” can go a long way in helping your partner remember that you respect and love each other and don’t take them for granted.

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