Answer of 5 common sex questions

 

Why is sex painful: 

Sex can be painful for some, especially the first time you do it. But sex isn't a painful act on the whole. It's supposed to give you pleasure.

"Some people experience anxiety, nervousness and tension during sex. This tightens the muscles of the vagina, making penetration difficult. This is what causes pain," says gynecologist Dr Srishti Jain.

Stop worrying about sex and it will automatically be pleasurable and not cause pain.

Am I a lesbian: 

Many heterosexual women have dreams about doing it with other women. This doesn't have to mean they're gay or bisexual. You may realize your sexual preference by who you think of when you masturbate. But this isn't a sure shot method, the fact remains that many women have fantasies that involve other women.

"If you have repeated dreams and sexual feelings towards a person of the same sex, which are affecting your actual sex life, you should seriously consider the possibility of being homosexual," says Jain.

I never have an orgasm: 

"Forty-five per cent of women don't have an orgasm during intercourse," says Jain. It's got nothing to do with you. It could mean you aren't getting good action.  

Try new positions and see what you enjoy best. It's just a matter of trial and error. Simply having your clitoris stroked the right way can give you an orgasm.

First Date Sex = Slut: 

There's no hard and fast rule about which date you should have sex on. It completely depends on the two people involved and how the date went.  

If you are comfortable with the guys and don't see any reason to hold off having fun in the bedroom, go right ahead. Just be prepared for things to go either way the next morning. Make sure you're using protection so that the chances of STDs and pregnancy are ruled out.

Love or lust: 

The fact that you are asking this question means you have trouble separating sex and love. Our take is that love doesn't have to come into the picture for you to have good sex. No-strings-attached sex is just as pleasurable. 

Make sure you are honest with each other about what you are looking for. Remember to use adequate protection.

Jain says pregnancy and sexually-transmitted diseases should be the biggest worry in your head. "Make sure you learn about these consequences. It's better to be safe than sorry," she says.