Answer of 5 common sex questions

 

Why is sex painful: 

Sex can be painful for some, especially the first time you do it. But sex isn't a painful act on the whole. It's supposed to give you pleasure.

"Some people experience anxiety, nervousness and tension during sex. This tightens the muscles of the vagina, making penetration difficult. This is what causes pain," says gynecologist Dr Srishti Jain.

Stop worrying about sex and it will automatically be pleasurable and not cause pain.

Am I a lesbian: 

Many heterosexual women have dreams about doing it with other women. This doesn't have to mean they're gay or bisexual. You may realize your sexual preference by who you think of when you masturbate. But this isn't a sure shot method, the fact remains that many women have fantasies that involve other women.

"If you have repeated dreams and sexual feelings towards a person of the same sex, which are affecting your actual sex life, you should seriously consider the possibility of being homosexual," says Jain.

I never have an orgasm: 

"Forty-five per cent of women don't have an orgasm during intercourse," says Jain. It's got nothing to do with you. It could mean you aren't getting good action.  

Try new positions and see what you enjoy best. It's just a matter of trial and error. Simply having your clitoris stroked the right way can give you an orgasm.

First Date Sex = Slut: 

There's no hard and fast rule about which date you should have sex on. It completely depends on the two people involved and how the date went.  

If you are comfortable with the guys and don't see any reason to hold off having fun in the bedroom, go right ahead. Just be prepared for things to go either way the next morning. Make sure you're using protection so that the chances of STDs and pregnancy are ruled out.

Love or lust: 

The fact that you are asking this question means you have trouble separating sex and love. Our take is that love doesn't have to come into the picture for you to have good sex. No-strings-attached sex is just as pleasurable. 

Make sure you are honest with each other about what you are looking for. Remember to use adequate protection.

Jain says pregnancy and sexually-transmitted diseases should be the biggest worry in your head. "Make sure you learn about these consequences. It's better to be safe than sorry," she says.

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5 rules in online dating

The online dating scene is changing and changing fast. All thanks to social media and smart phones which have made staying logged in easier. Here are a few important rules to play by before you enter the online dating game.

Spying!

Everybody check out about their date before meeting them on Google. Checking social media profiles also gives you a decent idea about a person. If you find anything about the profile, pictures or interactions on these platforms inappropriate, back off. But in case you decide to go ahead, meet and then come to a conclusion, do not be all sweet and confess about spying! It will make your date uncomfortable and also guarded about the conversations that follow- both situations aren’t ideal when you are at the ‘getting to know each other’ stage.

Text, text baby!

Take it easy and don’t read between the lines. This is a mantra you have to religiously follow. It is okay if your date doesn’t call you often or at all, till he is keeping a conversation going though texts. With lifestyles getting busier and most people being sleep deprived, there is no scope of talking on the phone till late in the night. Texting acts as an easier option to interact – throughout the day. Also, some conversations and topics are best discussed on texts.

Social media: the new pick up place

Finding someone on social media! Seriously? Yes! Your Facebook or Twitter or even Instagram can play cupid in your life. What’s the plus? You and the prospective date may have friends in common, making it easy for you to dig out information about him. So browse through with an open eye. 

Is he in for the money?

It is scary but true. Many online dating and matchmaking sites hire people to express interest in profiles and to take it to the next level by chatting or having phone conversations. So the guy you are already planning to go on a date with may just be in it for the money. So don’t let your guards down or trust blindly.

Take the lead

Should I call first? Should I ask him out first? Would I sound too desperate? It’s natural for you to ask yourself these and many more questions. But, take a chill pill we say! Relationship experts have it that women, who want to be pursued and chased and don’t want to be the first ones to call, are often mistaken by men as being disinterested. Also, since options are many in the online dating scene, no man wants to put in extra effort and waste time on pursing one.

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Help him change his bad habits

A couple’s lifestyle can go a long way in shaping the future of a relationship. But being patient and putting up with a partner’s quirks is not the only way to save the relationship. We tell you how you can help him get rid of his bad habits.

State the problem and let him think of a solution. But if he doesn’t have any ideas, give an alternative that works for you. Focus on solving the problem, not condemning him for his bad habit.

Keep it to one thing at a time. This means that if you are dealing with the towel on the bed, you are only dealing with the towel on the bed. Wait another day to talk about the hair in the sink or the smelly socks on the floor. It’s best not to tackle more than one issue a day. Otherwise your spouse will begin to feel like one big incompetent failure.

You have more power than you realise. So if you think he’s only having junk food, take control and he will eat better. If he’s spending too much time watching the television, it’s because it fills a void. It helps him relax and fills his time. But if the time is filled by something else, he won’t be watching TV as much. So fill up the time.

Bring it up when you are both relaxed. Don’t comment on the habit right away--it will just turn him off. After dinner is probably a good time because it’s easier to listen when you’re not starving.

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Add varieties in Relationship

 Add variety to your life

Studies have shown that dullness can lead to dissatisfaction with a relationship. Trying something new can be as simple as visiting an unfamiliar restaurant or as grand as a backpacking trip through Sri Lanka. Discoveries you make together will keep you feeling close.

Play together, stay together

Find a sport or hobby that you both love and make that a priority in your relationship. Trekking, biking, tennis... whatever it is, find something you enjoy doing together.

Talk!

In other words: communicate. Talking out the tough subjects—money, religion, fidelity, raising kids—will not be the most fun you’ve had, but it’ll be valuable.

There’s no shame in seeking therapy

Studies show that couples who seek counselling during rocky periods are more successful in resolving their issues than those who don’t. Whether it’s from a counsellor or mental health professional, getting an expert to help sort out strife is very wise.

Keep your eyes on the prize

Yes, he forgot your friend’s name for the nth time, but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you. If you keep your perspective fixed on the goal—to be in a happy, functioning partnership—you’re less likely to get tangled up in every minor annoyance. Remember, you both want the same thing—love and happiness.

Two heads are better than one

Being in a relationship means you’ve made a merger. You’ve not only joined assets but inherited the other’s problems as well. Rather than looking at his problems as merely his own, tackle them together. So if he’s gaining weight, rather than pushing him to diet on his own, enroll in a gym together.

I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine

No one likes demands, but everyone can appreciate a compromise. If you want your partner to do something and you’re not sure he’ll agree, the quickest way to avoid a confrontation is to sweeten the deal. For example: “Sure, I’ll watch the cricket match on Monday if you take me to see the next movie of my choice.”

Fight right

In order to have productive arguments, keep these rules in mind: Don’t call your spouse names. When things get really tough, take a break from the argument. Let the other person finish his/her sentences. Don’t initiate a discussion when you’re angry.

Mind your manners

“Please”, “thank you” and “you’re welcome” can go a long way in helping your partner remember that you respect and love each other and don’t take them for granted.

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10 Surprising Things All Wives Should Know About Their Husbands

Whether you recently said "I do" or just celebrated a double-digit anniversary, you can probably spout off a lot of info about your husband-his middle name, where he was born, his favorite food. But knowing these 10 other things can bring you closer than ever. Find out why, and try these relationship strategies to ensure your husband is anything but a mystery. Photo by Getty Images

1. When He Needs Space

Sharing office news, the kids' schedules and the latest neighborhood drama as soon as your husband walks in the door each night can backfire. "Most women want to immediately connect at the end of the day. For a lot of guys, they need their space more than ever then," says Les Parrott III, PhD, a psychology professor and co-author (with wife and marriage therapist Leslie Parrott, EdD) of The Good Fight: How Conflict Can Bring You Closer. Give your hubby a few minutes to unwind when he comes home. You're more likely to get his undivided attention if you wait.

2. When He's Really Listening

If it seems like your husband constantly tunes you out, consider this: Men may look at other areas of the room while still paying attention, according to Deborah Tannen, author of You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, who reviewed videotapes of same-sex best friends talking. Rather than focus on where your husband's gaze lands during conversations, note how he responds to you. If your words are truly falling on deaf ears, Rachel A. Sussman, a relationship specialist and author of The Breakup Bible, suggests gently telling him you feel he isn't listening; then, let him respond. "Don't accuse or blame him," she advises.

3. The Most Productive Way to Fight…

Arguments happen in any good marriage. But there's a wrong and right way to fight. Through a study conducted to predict how long couples would stay married, researchers discovered, not surprisingly, that yelling during fights often led to divorce-but so did approaching arguments differently from one's spouse (say, one spoke calmly and the other avoided the conversation). "Ask yourself, 'When would I want to have this conversation?'" suggests Sussman. "Then, think about what might work best for your husband." Assessing both your moods can help you pinpoint the best time for a constructive argument.

4. When an Argument is Going Nowhere

For some disagreements, there's just no productive way to fight it out. To find out if you're gearing up for a purposeful fight, rate the importance of the topic. If it's a core value-like how to raise your children or which city to live in-rank it highly. If it's not-like the color of a new bedspread or what to have for dinner-it may not be worth an argument. Next, determine if you and your husband are ready for the discussion. If either of you are "tired, hungry or distracted, don't get into a conversation about something important," Dr. Leslie Parrott advises.

5. Which Topics Set Him Off

Maybe it's talking about his mom's flavorless cooking-or his late nights at work. Dr. Les Parrott says it's important to "know where the emotional landmines are. If you step on one, you can expect an explosion," he says. But you can't avoid all "hot topics." "Find the right space and time to talk about these issues," he suggests. Plus, try to understand your husband's side, and then approach him in a non-threatening way. You might say, "I'm not looking to upset you; I'm just looking for a solution to an issue that's causing me a lot of pain," Sussman offers.

6. How (and When) to Be His Support System

Couples who say they have strong spousal support and face daily stress have 50% higher rates of marriage satisfaction, according to a 2012 study. While wives equate affection and warmth with support, husbands feel supported when they're appreciated, needed and receiving offers to help with errands. Not sure if your hubby needs you? Ask him. "Mindreading is outlawed," says Jackie Black, PhD, a board-certified couples' coach and author of Meeting Your Match: Cracking the Code to Successful Relationships. Volunteer to tackle some tasks on his list so he can recharge. And tell him how much you appreciate him as a partner to give him a boost.

7. When He's Not Loving Your Love Life

If your man isn't showing signs he wants to have sex-perhaps he usually kisses your neck or gives you a telltale look-then it's time to rekindle the fire. Dr. Leslie Parrott says couples reconnect when they try out-of-the-box activities together. "Women experience intimacy through communication, so we often underplay sharing something novel," she says. Plan a date that'll get you both in the mood. Some ideas: Sign up for a race, head to the museum or take a cooking class to, ahem, turn up the heat.

8. How He Views His Role as Husband and Father

Whether it's just you two or you plus kids, you and your husband have equally important family roles. And it's vital that you recognize how he views his part and respect it. "Of course that's a two-way street, but it's even more important for men," says Dr. Les Parrott, who adds that respecting his role helps him feel close to you. Fight the urge to cast your husband into specific parts without his input. And keep in mind that you don't always have to be in sync with parenting. "Differences in temperament and style are key to parents' success and the enjoyment of parenting," Dr. Black says.

9. What His Dream Job (or Vacation or Car) Is

It's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of day-to-day life, but happy couples discuss "each other's hopes and dreams to build and sustain intimacy," says Dr. Black. Make it a point to regularly talk to your husband about, well, him. Find out his career goals for the next few years-or just hear about his favorite book, TV show or food of the moment. Then, reciprocate by telling him more about you. Communication helps you grow with each other instead of apart.

10. That You Don't Know Everything About Him

No matter how much you communicate with your husband, you can never completely know him, and that's OK. "It's never good to believe you know anything about your partner for sure and therefore not ask," says Dr. Black. "It's vital that you and your husband continually get to know each other," adds Sussman. "If you're growing, you have to continue to catch up with each other." That means there's at least one enjoyable thing you can do each week: get to know-and fall in love with-your husband all over again.

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10 Common Honeymoon Mistakes

Here are some of the most common honeymoon mistakes-don't make them yours!

1.	Forgetting to book a double bed. You may laugh, but it's important when reserving hotels, especially abroad.
2.	Making reservations for an early flight the morning after your wedding. If you're planning an evening reception, you can be sure you're not going to bed early on your wedding night. A later flight may save you from walking bleary-eyed through the airport.
3.	Not carrying a Condom. This may sound strange but most of the honeymooners do forget to carry condoms on their honeymoon. This may happen either because of the hectic and tiring marriage ceremonies or just a simple oversight. Adequate sex protection is a must if you do not intend to get pregnant immediately after your marriage.
4.	Skimping on your accommodations. Maybe on other trips, but not a honeymoon. Even if you think you won't spend much time in your room, you'll be sorry if your accommodations are not special. Probably the most common honeymoon lament we hear is, "I wish we'd spent just a little more and stayed in a deluxe room."
5.	Not setting a honeymoon budget. Before you go, agree about what you'll splurge on and where you'll skimp to avoid any possible money hassles en route.
6.	Letting one person do all the planning. After all, this honeymoon is for both of you. If you do all the work, you'll feel guilty if things don't go perfectly. If you don't take part in the planning, you'll probably end up dissatisfied.
7.	Ignoring cost-saving travel packages. Talk to your travel agent. Many packages will allow you to have all the frills you want...and save you money.
8.	Thinking you have to spend every minute together. You'll both be happier if you plan one or two separate activities on your honeymoon--and think how much fun you'll have sharing your experiences with each other.
9.	Keeping mum about being honeymooners. Don't be bashful...especially with hotels, cruise lines, restaurants...Tell them when you make your reservations and you're likely to enjoy special treatment.
10.	Relying too much on friends and family. Ask for recommendations from friends and family, but don't let yourselves be overly influenced. Follow your own interests.
11.	Not consulting with a travel agent. A capable agent will help you plan a honeymoon that's right for the two of you-- at a price you can afford.

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Husband wife Quotes

"Everything, husband, wife, or even the body, is only illusory. These are all shackles of illusion. Unless you can free yourself from these bondages, you will never be able to go to the other shore of the world."
 - Sarada Devi

"The relationship between husband and wife should be one of closest friends."
 - B. R. Ambedkar

"The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again - and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife."
 - Barbara de Angelis

"Children are supposed to help hold a marriage together. They do this in a number of ways. For instance, they demand so much attention that a husband and wife, concentrating on their children, fail to notice each other's faults."
 - Richard Armour

“No jealousy their dawn of love overcast, nor blasted were their wedded days with strife; each season looked delightful as it past, to the fond husband and the faithful wife.”
 - James Beattie

“The husband and wife are one, and that one is the husband.”
 - William Blackstone

“The bitterest creature under heaven is the wife who discovers that her husband's bravery is only bravado, that his strength is only a uniform, that his power is but a gun in the hands of a fool.” 
 - Pearl S. Buck

 

A good wife is one who serves her husband in the morning like a mother does, loves him in the day like a sister does and pleases him like a prostitute in the night.”
 - Chanakya

 

“Women desire six things: They want their husbands to be brave, wise, rich, generous, obedient to wife, and lively in bed.”

 - Geoffrey Chaucer

“When you're a big money earner and your husband isn't, it makes you question how feminine you are. I felt I was less feminine than if I was a supporting wife, or a second fiddle, or 'Mrs. Higgins.”
 - Barbara Corcoran

“All that a husband or wife really wants is to be pitied a little, praised a little, and appreciated a little.”
 - Oliver Goldsmith

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Husband Wife Jokes

Husband: Today is Sunday and I have to enjoy it.
So i bought 3 movie tickets.
Wife: Why 3?
Husband: 4u and your parents.


An Airline Introduced
A Special Package For Business Men.
Buy Ur Ticket Get Ur Wife’s Ticket Free..
After Great Success,
The Company Sent Letters to All The Wives
Asking How Was The Trip.
Which Trip ?


Man: is there any medicine for long life?
Doctor: get married
man: will it help?
Doc: no, but it will avoid such thoughts


Wife pointing at a couple next door says to her husband:
Look at him he kisses her all the time, can’t u do that?

Husband : I tried but she slapped me.


What is the best example of ‘once in a lifetime’ opportunity?

A Mosquito lands on your wife’s face,
& u get the rarest opportunity of your life..

Never miss it!! ;)

Husband: can u be the moon of my life?

Wife: Awww Yes sweetheart..!
Husband: Great! then….
Stay 9,955,887.6 kms away from Me..!!


A man gifted his wife a diamond necklace for there anniversary
and then his wife didn’t speak to him for 6 months.
Was the neclace fake?
No. that was deal..!!

Position of a husband is just like a Split AC…
No matter how loud he is outdoor,
He is designed to remain silent indoor! :P :D

Wife: Im not feeling well..
Husband: Ohhoo I was thinking to go for a dinner!!
Wife: I was joking dear..
Husband: Me too,

A failed Businessman to his Fat wife:
You are my Single Investment in my Life
that has Doubled :D

Height of misunderstanding:
A man marrying his own secretary thinking that
she will still follow his orders as before!!

Only 2 things Can Change a women’s Mood..
1) I Love You.
2) 50% Discount!

Husband asks:
Do you know the meaning of WIFE.
It means.. Without Information Fighting Every time!
WIFE says No, it means:
With Idiot for Ever
All Of Them Gave A Same Reply..


There are 2 theories on arguing with a woman!!!
If the woman is right,
be fair to her & keep quiet.
If the woman is wrong,
be fair to yourself & keep quiet..

A Question Asked in an IQ Test:
If u r Married to One of The Twin Sisters
How Would You Recognize Your Wife?
The Brilliant Answer Came:
Why Should I ?

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Quiz - go back to your ex or not ?

Take the following quiz to find out if getting back with your past fling is a good step to take or not...

 In the relationship circuit, breakups, patch ups and rebounds are not quaint. In fact, it's but common. Are you a part of the bandwagon where, post a breakup, you think you still can give the bond with that person a try? If you are unsure as to whether your ex should not just be a thing of the past, and wondering if a second chance is what the relationship deserves, here's a list of questions you must answer before taking the plunge.

1. Have you cheated while you were with your ex-partner or vice versa?
 A. Yes! My partner did cheat on me. And that's what hurt me most.
 B. No. We put an end to our relationship because it wasn't working. None of us cheated on either.

2. Are you okay with how the relationship ended, and did both parties attain closure?
 A. No. We have never spoken about how/why/when we decided to end the relationship.
 B. Yes! We discussed breaking up and this was mutual.

3. How awkward was it post the breakup?
 A. Extremely awkward actually... being civil while at a radius away to each other was difficult.
 B. We are and have always been good friends, and thankfully that remains constant.

4. What is the major reason you think you want to get back to this ex?
 A. I am lonely, bored, need some entertainment in life. And being single sucks!
 B. We were great together...and I miss the times we had. I wish I could unwind time spent with him/her?

5. Tell your friends/family you are getting back to your ex. How do you think would they react?
 A. I think they'd say, "What? Are you kidding me! After all that he/she put you through? Don't do this."
 B. They would be extremely happy. Everyone felt we made an awesome couple. I think that is true.
If most of your answers are:
 A. You should know this isn't a wise decision. Getting back to your ex just because you are bored in life is the perfect recipe for disaster. You and your ex are zero compatible, and well, it's high time you get over him/her. Move on if you want to be happy.
 B. Your ex and you are meant to be, and we feel sorry that you both had to go through a breakup. We suggest you take it slow nonetheless. We understand a lot of people will be happy that you both get together, and so will you, but make sure you don't rush into the decision.

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